In 1938, Li Changyu was born in Rugao, Jiangsu. When he was 5 years old, he moved to Taiwan with his mother. His father, Li Haomin, owned a large fish farm in Jiangsu. Unfortunately, his father died on a ship bound for Taiwan in 1949, and his mother alone raised 13 boys and girls.
Li Changyu, as a teenager was accepted into Marine University for college, but when he found out that the police academy was free of tuition fees, he chose to enter there, instead. This was a turning point in his career as a detective.
After graduating, Li Changyu started his career as a criminal police officer and was later sent to the United States to work part-time and undertake further studies. In 1975, he began teaching.
While in the United States, Li Changyu used scientific experimental methods to repeatedly detect strange cases. He created the top criminal identification agency and participated in more than 300 case investigations worldwide each year.
In 1999, Li Changyu received the Friendship Award issued by the government. In 2006, he began to receive faculty invitations from many universities in China to serve as a consultant at the China Supreme Procuratorate Information Technology Research Center.
Li Changyu’s had a life of hard work, he is known as a contemporary Sherlock Holmes, a scientific detective, but he owes his success to his mother and wife. He was deeply indebted to them.
There are 13 brothers and sisters in Li Changyu’s family, and all of them have PhDs!
This makes people wonder how their parents raised them. In ancient times, it was a good reputation to have a doctorate. Do the parents also have PhDs?
The truth may surprise many. Li Changyu’s parents were not born into a rich family, there were no famous figures from his ancestors, and they were not a family of poets or scholars.
The Li family was indeed quite wealthy at first, owning nearly half of the land in Rugao, Jiangsu, but by the time of Li Changyu’s generation, the family had suffered relentlessly.
In January, his father, Li Haomin, boarded the Taiping Ship to Taiwan on the eve of the 1949 Spring Festival to escape the chaos during the war. But unfortunately, his ship sank in Shanghai and Li lost his father. The passenger ship Taiping sank due to overload and sailed at night without turning on the navigation lights. This accident resulted in the deaths of nearly a thousand passengers.
Worse yet, Li Haomin initially went to Taiwan with the only remaining family assets. After his death, the family suffered enormous economic losses.
Since this incident, the burden of supporting the family has fallen on the shoulders of his mother, Wang Shuzhen. At that time, Wang Shuzhen was 52 years old and had to find a way to feed her 13 children, an unimaginable difficulty.
But it turns out that Wang Shuzhen not only supports a family but also trains these 13 children to become talented people, what is the mystery?
Wang Shuzhen was born in 1897. She and her husband Li Haomin are natives of Rugao, Jiangsu.
The Wang Shuzhen family is big. At that time, most of the women in the old society were illiterate, but Wang Shuzhen’s parents loved their daughter very much and supported her studies in school.
Wang Shuzhen was also very competitive, had good calligraphy practice, was proficient in poetry, and was a well-known talented woman in Rugao.
In addition, she was so beautiful, that at the age of 19, Wang Shuzhen personally chose her husband who was the second generation of a wealthy family.
Unlike the man, people often say, Li Haomin has worked hard to make progress despite his rich family. This is also an important reason for Wang Shuzhen who is also interested in Li Haomin.
After Li Haomin and Wang Shuzhen got married, they lived in harmony and respected each other. Wang Shuzhen gave birth to 8 daughters and 5 sons.
The Li family, which was rich and full of children and grandchildren, was a rare blessing.
But with the death of her husband Li Haomin, this originally happy family fell apart. Wang Shuzhen was born a golden woman with a golden key. additionally, in her previous life, she had a dedicated staff to provide services for the family’s clothing, food, housing, and transportation.
Can she really take over this important task?
To survive and feed her 13 children, Wang Shuzhen doesn’t consider herself a weak woman and gives up easily, she does everything she can as long as it makes money.
Therefore, Wang Shuzhen was busy all day doing things like washing clothes and cooking for her children and also taking the children to school.
However, Wang Shuzhen was also an educated person, and she knew that her children needed to be the same. So, even though her family lives in the very remote suburb of Taoyuan District, Taiwan, she still insists on sending her children to school in an urban area miles away.
Under the guidance and upbringing of the mother, these 13 children are also very wise and righteous, they not only worked harder to study but also often helped their mother with housework and did part-time jobs selling newspapers to support the family.
All of that later proved that Wang Shuzhen’s motherly supervision was correct, and her 13 children became educated. And that is a great talent!
His 13 children eventually earned Ph.D. degrees, and 3 of them were awarded the “Top Ten Outstanding Young Americans”.
Both President Clinton and Bush wrote to Wang Shuzhen, praising her as a “great mother.”
It can be said that the elder Wang Shuzhen is very successful in motherhood, and even makes everyone admire her.
Where did her wisdom come from?
The family motto has 12 words
When asked about her wisdom in managing the household, Wang Shuzhen said that her family motto is just 12 words:
“Treat people well, concentrate on doing things, talk less, and do more.”
This 12-word family motto is not deep, even a little shallow.
When Li Changyu remembered his mother, he said the one sentence that impressed him the most.
“Even though you have no money, you have to be honest.”
Li Changyu explained that the family conditions at that time were very difficult, but his mother never complained about this. Although Li Changyu could only wear the old clothes that were handed down by his older brothers, they had to be neat and clean.
Because Wang Shuzhen believed that this outward appearance actually represented one’s views. After all, one must be upright and have a strong and progressive spirit.
It is not difficult for us to see from these trifles that Wang Shuzhen’s way of educating her children is not complicated, and there is not even a special way. If you have to say something special, it’s really nothing more than hard work.
In the past, Wang Shuzhen also experienced life changes but she never complained or was confused. The woman lived 106 years, and she lived toil until the end.
When we envy her for having a group of amazing children, have we ever thought that the survival problems she faced are also difficult?
How many people can face great suffering like Wang Shuzhen and do, “talk less and do more”?
When we envy Wang Shuzhen’s success, we should think of her simple and learnable experiences. But we should pay more attention to:
No matter what, perseverance is always the hardest, and perseverance is the most valuable.
If we work hard diligently, the effect will be more obvious than doing nothing and waiting forever!
Guidance for a good education:
Question: Why are other people’s children so good? It’s not that you don’t have a good life, or that other people’s schools are better. You should reflect on your family education.
What is family education?
Family education is to teach children some knowledge by parents. It teaches children how to persevere, how to respect others, how to develop good study habits, and so on. Education begins at home.
When children develop these good study habits and some polite words and behaviors at home, it will be easier to go to school, and they will not be bored.
The current situation of family education
1. Lack of family education
In this “material desire” society, more and more people are beginning to advocate “money supremacy”, and “schooling is useless” and these are deeply ingrained in the hearts of some parents. They are usually busy with work and earning money every day, but ignore the children’s family education. Send your child to school, and don’t care about anything. Such children can only either learn to read books, or can’t read well, and their values are also biased.
School education cannot replace family education. The nourishment of parental love is more than ten million books.
2. Dislocation of family education
Some parents regard the growth of their children as more important than anything else. To provide more comprehensive family care for their children, it has become the choice of mothers to take care of their children and accompany them full-time. Even so, there can still be various problems with the child. Here are the most common:
“The child used to be very obedient, but now he doesn’t listen to anything and talks back.”
“My child’s academic performance is declining, so it’s useless to make up lessons, and it’s useless to persuade me with all my heart.
“Speaking of the child, he was not happy, and even frightened us, saying that he was going to run away from home.”
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These problems have a lot to do with the parents’ family education.
Parents with a strong desire for control can’t wait to monitor their children’s words and deeds 24 hours a day. The children have no freedom, let alone their own opinions;
Parents of violence can’t help beating and scolding when they are dissatisfied, their children are timid and weak, and dare not move forward…
Parents think that they have worked hard. The way and method of deviation, not only can the children not get a good education, but it will bring more negative effects.
3 tips for family education
1. Education is not control
Controlling children’s lives in the name of love makes them more irresponsible.
I once saw a post like this on the Internet: How strong is the parent’s desire for control? There is an answer that makes people feel distressed after reading it:
From my birth to the present, almost all major decisions in life are made by my parents, how to apply for the high school entrance examination, which university to go to, and which major to study. My parents always persuaded me the phrase “Our choices are for your own good, and we are all here.”
If I felt free to communicate with them, what I really wanted to say was: “I have only one life, only one life. I have never lived according to my wishes. Thanks to you, I have never really been happy.”
For children, life without autonomy is sad.
Real education is never strict control, but guidance and precepts and deeds.
Parents should also respect their children’s childhood. No one is perfect, let alone a child who has not yet mature. Children are also human, and they also need to have an independent personality. Parents should respect their children’s current lives, respect their differences, and allow imperfections to exist. In this process, you will slowly discover the changes in your child.
2. To belittle a child is not education, it is crucial to building confidence
Take a look at these “wrong” parental guidance:
Denying the child’s opinion, and then blame her for not having a strong opinion.
After growing up and working, even the daughter’s dressing has to be pointed out.
A mother’s inadvertent depreciation can surely make a child less assertive and more inferior. In the end, they will deny their capabilities and think that no matter what they do, they can’t do it well.
For children, what they value most is the approval of their parents and their respect and encouragement.
For parents, what you need to do is to help children build self-confidence and find themselves. This quality will make them feel useful for a lifetime.
3. The best education is to help children become the best version of themselves
Parents have an inherent evaluation model, believing that only children with good grades from good schools are excellent. If guided by this model, the parents follow the same kind for their children, and it will also reduce the children’s happiness.
Every child is unique, respecting the child’s personality, and through purposeful guidance, can help them become the best version of themselves.
Let children do what they want to do, learn what they want to learn, and become the best self to be happy.
Elon Musk, the founder of Tesla’s electric car, cannot succeed without his mother, Maye’s, efforts and respect. When Maye was educating her children, she cared very much about their ideas. The eldest son likes computers, the other son likes cooking, and the younger daughter likes acting. Maye helped her children fulfill their dreams and fully supported them.
All three of her children are amazing. Elder brother Elon Musk went from PayPal to Tesla, to recycling rockets and Martian immigration, he played whatever adventures he played; younger brother Kimbal set up a non-profit organization that moved the farm to campus; younger sister was a filmmaker.
Family education, in the final analysis, is the most important word and deed of the parents. If parents respect their children’s choices and do not blindly follow the trend, then even if the child does not become a dragon or phoenix in the future, he will still be a child with a sound personality and a healthy mind.
Live. Love. Learn. Be happy… with family.
